One day, I don’t know what pushed me, I still can’t say this
is what pushed me to ping my friend. I needed a good weave on because I had a
wedding to attend, I thought it would be nice to ask for professional advice.
Immediately I pinged her, she responded it was like she had been waiting for
me. I told her I needed a weave on and then she started giving me names and
prices. We chatted for long and I finally settled for one, it was expensive but
she promised me that nothing would happen to it because it was original human
hair. I took it because I trusted her and I knew that she would not sell
anything fake. It was really expensive (I am not telling the name of the weave
on, neither am I telling the price but you are free to guess)
Sisters and brothers, I’m sure you can imagine my
disappointment when just after a day, the weave on began to tangle, it got so
bad that I could not brush it, I had to take out the hair. I confronted my
friend and she couldn’t say any sensible thing, I was very angry, she
definitely still had her way of selling fake things. I didn’t find it funny at
all. The fact that I expected an original human hair and I got fake was disheartening,
it was not even the good fake, you know there are some fakes that you would
still be able to rock for some time, but this one was the original fake, the
unusable fake.
When I realised that the weave on was fake, I no longer
cherished it like i did when I first got it, all I wanted to do was empty it in
the trash, mere seeing it made me unhappy because it just was not what I was
expecting.
This is exactly how it feels when we are lied to or cheated;
this is exactly how it feels to lie to someone about who we really are. The
reason is that when we lie about who we are, we create another picture of
ourselves in the mind of the other party.
Many people have gone into marriages and relationships with
lies, and in order to sustain the marriage, they tell more lies.
Many ladies have lied to be virgins before their marriage,
but you can imagine the irritation of the husband when he finds out that the
queen of his heart is not a virgin. It takes a lot of processing, he begins to
remove the initial thoughts he had about the person and tries to find a way to
fix in the new one, he starts the process again all from the beginning and that
can be very painful.
Some men lie about their profession in other to win the
heart of a lady, they pose around in big and flashy cars pretending to be
somebody else.
Many parents have lied to their children about their
profession, their children see them as responsible parents but their secret and
evil profession are not worthy of emulation.
Some friends tell lies upon lies to keep their friendship.
Some people pretend to come from wealthy home just to be able
to measure up but the truth is that it is not even about the lies alone, it is
about how you make the victims feel. The victims of these lies and deceit often
feel used, depressed, hurt and damaged.
We do not have to lie to keep up appearances, we do not have
to pretend in order to win another person’s love. When we do so, we hurt others
and we make a fool of them.
It’s like waiting for a box of gold and when the box finally
arrives, it’s a box full of dirt. Picture it, how would you feel?
Enough with the lies, enough with the deceit. Everyone deserves
the truth, no matter who they are. Don’t cause other people pain, don’t hurt
other people. If you cannot tell people who you really are, if you would rather
tell lies and deceive people than tell them who you are, then whatever you are
doing is wrong.
People are not toys, do not hurt them because in the end you
will lose both the person and the image you tried to protect.
Don’t turn another man’s box of gold into a box of dirt. There
is nothing worse than living a life that is not yours. Live your life to your
satisfaction, do what is right and pleasing to God, but please do not live another
person’s life, pretending to be who you are not. It is stressful, energy
consuming, and destructive.
Whoever you are, you are good enough, you are a box of gold,
Stop lying,
Stop deceiving,
Stop forming,
Stop fronting,
Stop faking before you become a box of dirt.